Etiquette In Swinging
The following article was written by Ken & Lisa,
P.O. Box 246, Alameda, CA 94501, and sums
up swingers’ etiquette better than anything else I have found. It has
been reprinted many times, but should
be mandatory reading for any swingers, experienced or new. All of us
want to be successful as swingers. It doesn’t
matter how often, with whom, where, or in what style we swing. One of
the nicest things about our lifestyle is that most
of us relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and
common courtesy; just as we ourselves wish to be
treated. Think C.S.A.S.C. (Common Sense and Social Courtesy). If you
employ the following suggestions or adapt
them to your own situation, you should become a welcome participant.
1. BE COURTEOUS - Be aware that this is a lifestyle full
of insecurities, uncertainties and fears.
Courteously is how we all want to be treated - with kindness,
thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity.
In essence, courtesy is our treating people the way we ourselves want to
be treated. Remember the Golden and Silver rules.
2. BE FRIENDLY - Whether or not you are personally interested in
swinging with someone, be polite.
You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that
person again, and they may
introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to
3. RESPOND TO ALL INVITATIONS - RSVP means please reply to the
invitation. It does NOT mean reply only
if you plan to attend. The most frustrating part of hosting, be it a
party, a group or another couple, is people
who are discourteous enough not to respond, PERIOD. Good etiquette and
good social courtesy DEMAND you
respond, by either calling or writing to say yes OR no.
4. NEVER ARRIVE EMPTY HANDED - When you go to someone’s home for a
party, ask if there is something you
can bring. (it’s amazing how many supplies, other than food are used up
at an average party.) If you are not
going as a couple, a house- gift is appropriate (and not necessarily
5. GO PREPARED - Take whatever you personally are going to need with
you. Carry a small overnight bag for
lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate
cleansing articles, condoms, etc. If you plan to
stay over, sleeping bags or blankets and pillows are necessities.
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